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Friday, January 11

Say No To Suicidal Thoughts!


i have this urge to write this article due to the alarming trend of suicidal cases among the elder generation.

Sadly, most of the time suicide awareness are widely discussed when there are celebrities involved. But there are common people who does that everyday, in some part of the world that are not noticeable to our eyes.

I have experienced a live suicide when my neighbor took his life when he found that he was diagnosis with cancer. So, he wrote a letter to his sister saying that he doesn't want her to bare his cost of treatment and prefer to take his own life. He get into his car and connect the exhaust pipe inside the car and died of carbon monoxide. He was 22 years old and it was like 20 years back. 

Do i have suicidal thoughts? Yes, it is like maze filled with lot of routes and when you take the one with light , there will be a dark tunnel you need to go thru. But once you successfully pass thru that route, another dark route will appear which you think that's the end.

That's how suicidal thoughts can be. Suicidal doesn't mean you need to have cancer, doesn't mean you got everything in life, doesn't mean you are poor, having hard time and you need to end your life. Doesn't mean you been raped, robbed, ripped in life and that's it. 

I went to the internet today and the suicidal prevention shows that you need to contact the counselors, befrienders or suicidal squads. There are millions of tips to identify the sign of suicidal , prevention, how to help a suicidal person. In my opinion, most suicidal people doesn't want to talk about it because they might get judged by the society as mentally ill, marked as depressed and etc. Some of them even thinks talking to god about suicidal is not a good sign.

I have a young friend who call me at the middle night , crying saying her grades are bad and she need to end her life. I have a friend who i knew her entire of my life called me and told that she feel suicidal and planning to take her life with her children. I spoke to them about my experience and they are surprised they are not alone in the world about the problems they are facing. 

When you are thinking that suicidal is an easy solution, take a challenge to live and aspire others. You can be 10 or 60 years old, but there is always something you can do to make a living or inspire someone to be a better person. 

That's why i do a bucket list like recently i have traveled alone to Japan to overcome my anxiety. I want to do it alone and i made it. I thought planes are frightening, i thought i can't do/manage things alone. I thought that Japan will mark me as an alien. But i did that alone and i manage to break that barrier. 

Did you went thru the similar situation? Yes, many times, many many many times! How did you overcome it? Whenever i have these feelings, i remember the faggots who did bad things to me and they still alive. So i thought i need to continue living to show that i can live more than them!
Talk to people who you think you are comfortable with. Live to the fullest and live without expectations.

Live to aspire, not to expire!

#saynotosuicidal #suicidalthoughts #livetothefullest #publicspeaking #toastmaster #myself

Essential tips while traveling to Tokyo, Japan

1) Pasmo Or Suica Card : Like top up card, you can either use Pasmo or Suica at train subway/metro, convenience store or in shopping complex if you prefer cashless free. Purchasable in airports, participating private railway and subway stations or bus depots. Cards are returnable (deposit 500 yen) and lifetime usable.

2) Hotel/Hostel/Airbnb? : As a solo traveler, i opt for Airbnb because the comfort and privacy was much more convenient. Most guesthouse in Tokyo are located at strategic train station areas. Nevertheless, if you are new user, Airbnb gives you RM120 as you can use that to cover 1 or 2 days of your trip!

I have opt to stay in Sharehouse Hotaru which is nearest to the train station and there are alot of eateries from japanese to western. For more information about Hotaru Sharehouse, please check out the link below : https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/7891458
Furthermore, if you refer a friend, you and your friend get some incentive. You can use mine if you planning to book via Airbnb!

Click below for further info :
Why i didn't opt for hotel/hostel due to full bookings/busy life in Tokyo city! I prefer quiet neighborhood and people are lovely there!

3) Use Google Map/GuruNavi App : This is much convenient while checking up your train schedule/restaurant and route to your destination.

4) Use translator app (there is many good apps like Google translator (translate via voice, picture, keyboard and verbal conversation : People in Tokyo speaks in basis English, therefore, i strongly suggest to use these app to make your life easy!

5) Money exchange : Best advisable to change at your country (if you are Asian) or withdraw from ATM (7 eleven is the best for overseas withdrawal). I have tried money exchange in Tokyo and received much more lower than i expected. My friends who travel to Tokyo advice on withdrawal via ATM if you are short of cash.

6) Why some people doesn't smile here? : Because Japanese are shy people. They might look stern but doesn't know how to react when someone starring at them (consider rude). They are the most polite people that i ever met. Most of them had helped me alot during my trip to Tokyo! Say Ko Ni Chi Wa or simply learn few basic words to communicate with people here!

7) Learn some basic Japanese words like greetings, thank you etc to make your life easier while traveling. If you are still in doubt, draw or use body language!

8 ) As a woman, can i travel to Tokyo as a solo traveler? : Yes, you bet you can! I can say 101% percent, Tokyo is the most safest place in earth to travel alone as a woman. You can be beautiful like angel or curvy like the river, for 8 days, I have walked alone at lonely street at 10/11 pm ish.
Only at two incidents, i have met a drunk gentleman who freaks me out for a min and a young guy at his 20's approached to ask if i am married (i said yes and he walked away.

9) Wear proper clothes especially when you are at remote areas. People here wear full clothes and please do have some respect on their culture.

10) Do not bring maggi noodles, brahim, masala,etc packed from your country and ending up not cooking. Especially if you are non Muslim, food at most small eateries are super cheap (450 yen for full and big portion meal set) =RM 16. Can last till dinner. There is lotsa convenience marts here caters food (start from 100 yen). Try Japanese food as you cant find them as fresh as anywhere in the world! Try street food, i say it loud and clear!

Vending machines are available wherever you go. If you need hot coffee/tea, yes! They are available via vending machine too!

Tokyo is growing as wonder of food business so there is western, Indian, Chinese, vegan, Turkish, Nepal, halal, street food and etc cuisines!

11) Public toilets are accessible anywhere and dont get freak with their current technology with the toilets! Learn to operate them via google. It is easy to use and they have the cleanest toilet system as i know.

12) Bring less clothes! Launderettes are available wherever you go! You can use the same t-shirt for twice in a week with different pants! For girls, you can shaffle one blouse with jeans, pants or skirts.

13) Souvenirs/Tax free shops : They are available in Shinjuku, Ginza, Akihabara, Asakusa,Oriental Bazaar along Omotesando in Harajuku and Ameyoko, Ueno. Look for 100 yen and 3 coins (300 yen) shops too. Tokyo station have lotsa good deal too. Don Quijote, Bic Camera, Uniqlo are favourable too. (Halal chocolates/snacks are available too!)

14) Check the weather before you heading to Tokyo. It might be colder at night and you might need a jacket/umbrella as it will be rainy season! Japan have 4 seasons and keep checking the weather forecast time to time!

15) Transportation in Tokyo: 80 percent of people here relies on train system which is available at the wee of hours.The rest 18 percent relies on buses and rest via Taxi/Uber. Some busess goes to the city with no charges so do some research about it.

Please take note Taxi and Uber fares are freaking expensive here unless you are at the stage of emergency, use it wisely.

Especially when you reached the airport at late nigh, limousine busses are available till 2 A.M (2000 yen for late night, 1000 yen during day time) From Narita/Haneda Aiport to Shinjuku. Then you can opt to take cab/uber.

16) Wifi Connection : Wifi connection here are accessible but not reliable at remote place. So i opt to purchase pocket wifi service via Roaming Man which one can collect from KLIA/KLIA2. No deposit (depends on their policy updates time to time). Unlimited data and super accessible wherever you are in Japan!
 Or check out thru :

Why i didn't opt for sim card due to limited access for the day which i feel pocket WiFi is much more reliable.

17) Water are clean here? : Yes it is. Mineral water bottles are purchasable via vending machines (you can see them anywhere on the streets) , marts and supermarket (more discounts)

18) Do your research before heading to Tokyo : If you are going in a tight budget, check out some spots which provides free entrances. Most of the parks are free and streets view are awesome. I watched thousands of youtube channels and read lotsa article via Google.com.

I love adventures and natures rather than hanging on bling places. So, if you saw my photos and journey, you will get some rough idea.

19) While shooting video/take selfie, be courteous. I always find a quiet spot so i wont annoy people who are around me. Most of the time, people are busy walking and you doesnt want to interrupt their journey!

20) For easy guidance, use the free pass (means it is a pass for certain tourist destination which provides unlimited ride/discounts and other benefits for the destination with cheaper fares.
Example, if you planning to go to Kamakura, Mt Fuji, etc, visit Odakyu Sightseeing Service centre in Shinjuku Station. For further information, visit https://www.odakyu.jp/english/support/center/

21) I have a vary experience with Airasia Japan as they are strict with the luggage weights. So, my suggestion is to take more baggage size while booking the tickets. Hand luggage is strictly should be 7 KG and only 2 bags are allowed to be carried.

While booking tickets at Airasia, do not opt for the Value pack options if you are looking for insurance coverage! Why? Baggage Delay & 1 hour On-time Guarantee Insurance by Tune Protect is not covered for DJ flights (Japan airline)

22) Have fun and take lotsa picture and plan ahead for a wonderful trip to Tokyo!